Many couples, not only in Papua New Guinea (PNG) but elsewhere around the world wonder secretly about how many times it is healthy to have sex in a week.
We took the pain to shed some light into these critical question.
On August 31, 2012, Dr Laurie Mintz, a specialist in Stress and Sex quoted some interesting statistic from Kinsley Institute saying;
“18-29 year olds have sex an average of 112 times per year, 30 – 39 year olds an average of 86 times per year, and 40 – 49 year olds an average of 69 times per year”.
These are just averages and one must note that these are overseas data and does not reflect PNG. But we assume that we can draw some inferences from these overseas data to give us Papua New Guineans some basis to answer the question, how much sex is normal for a PNG couple in a week.
Another specialist, Dr Harry Fisch, a urologist from New York, Presbyterian hospital was quoted in Daily Mail saying that average couple have sex two to three times a week. However, he argues that two to three times sex in a week does not satisfy women for the fact that men don’t last long to satisfy the women.
“About 45% of men reach orgasm within two minutes of starting penetrative sex, which is much too quick to average woman” Fisch states.
Men normally would desire frequent sex in a day and in a week as Fisch affirms.
“The average man has 11 erections a day and that some young men see having sex many times a day as normal.
The general view here is such that the younger the couple are, the more sexually active they are and tend to have more sex daily and weekly.
Young couples would almost rapidly recall adventurous and sometimes weird quickies before one goes to work. Or even steamy lunch hour quickies if a partner or both has cars to drive home. Oh and you might recall the last time you both rushed to have a quick shot maybe in the bathroom, bedroom, kitchen or even on the couch as soon as the kids or wantoks (relatives) went out of the house.
Sounds so familiar isn’t it? Research does show that as couple age, their sex drive slows down and is just how the human body works. Very few people remain very sexually active during old age.
Couples psychologist and certified therapist Sari Copper was quoted by New York Post saying happy couples have sex three to four times per week.
Cooper offers a workable advice.
“My advice is to have a couple talk frankly about how much they’d like to be intimate, and negotiate how and when they could make that happen”
Copper’s advice is very relevant to couples in PNG and elsewhere around the world. Lack of sex is just of one the many factor that forces either the man or woman in the relationship to look elsewhere.
Very recently, Brian Cassey of Australia Mail Daily published a rather damaging article about sex industry in PNG. Whether the data used is credible or not, the risk of a partner not having enough sex and looking for illegal sex and even paying for sex or offering free or paid sex is real.
Backed by research data we gathered from different sources, we draw a general conclusion that to have a healthy relationship, the couple must decide together how much sex is normal for them in a week and learn to accommodate the sexual needs of each partner as an when it arises.